We’ve been married for 4 months and together around 4 years.

Our wedding was really quick mostly because my husband is working in the states and I had to marry him to come live with him. We didnt decided to get married just so we can live with each other there was more behind the devotion. And we do have a migration case open for me.

He said a few times this was going to be his bachelors party. I was fine with this because I never expected him to do something this stupid.

Communication was great for a few days, he would make this video blogs about everything they were doing together and called me as soon as he woke up and as soon as he went to sleep. Suddenly it stoped I would get a text at 2/3 am saying he was so sorry but they lost track of time catching up or calling but talking less than 6 minutes.

The first red flag was when I opened Google maps on our shared iPad and saw a couple of “happy massage” places. I didn’t think any of it, I was almost sure they were having a conversation, the subject came up and they Google it. Any way, when he called I jokingly asked what he was up to. But instead of laughing the conversation was just uncomfortable. He went off on me saying how controlled he feels and annoyed that I assumed the worst. This made me feel weird cause I was clearly laughing about it. I ended the conversation so it didn’t escalate. Next day goes by and he didn’t say anything before going to bed (in his time zone, it’s a 12h diference). Around 12 pm I got this gut feeling, I was so anxious and couldn’t control it. I went on with my day, trying to ignore it but the anxiety was there and very strong. I noticed he was constantly online on Whatsapp so I knew he was out parting. But I couldn’t stop feeling worried. On my way back home on the train it occurred to me that maybe something wrong happened with him and because he was angry he didn’t tell me. So I got home around 6pm, opened the computer and opened the Whatsapp app to make sure everything was ok.