{"id":1572,"date":"2024-03-06T22:32:48","date_gmt":"2024-03-06T22:32:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=1572"},"modified":"2024-03-14T18:48:56","modified_gmt":"2024-03-14T18:48:56","slug":"single-pregnant-and-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=1572","title":{"rendered":"Single, pregnant and alone!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1573\" src=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/431421024_326685173230725_8536315529633437337_n.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1080\" height=\"1350\" srcset=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/431421024_326685173230725_8536315529633437337_n.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/431421024_326685173230725_8536315529633437337_n-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/431421024_326685173230725_8536315529633437337_n-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/431421024_326685173230725_8536315529633437337_n-768x960.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p><div class=\"311fe198f191a864c1efcdfa9efedfdf\" data-index=\"3\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1782571\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n<\/div>\n\n<p>Faced with an unplanned pregnancy, a relationship ending and an uncertain future, Christine Coppa could have curled up in a ball on her parents\u2019 couch and given up on all her dreams. But she didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"fr-fir\" src=\"https:\/\/www.sheknows.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/pregnant-woman-praying_bxmrz6.jpeg\" alt=\"Pregant Woman Praying\" width=\"300\" height=\"434\" align=\"right\" border=\"0\" hspace=\"9\" vspace=\"7\" data-dimensions=\"434,300\" data-width=\"300\" data-height=\"434\" data-lazy-loaded=\"1\" \/>When an unplanned pregnancy happens, women in relationships have a reasonable expectation that the baby\u2019s father will be around and help out with the child-rearing, even if the relationship doesn\u2019t last. However, that isn\u2019t always the case. While pregnant women will carry a very public notice of their impending motherhood nestled under their shirt, men who choose to skip out on parenthood can just go on with their lives.<\/p>\n<p>Fortunately, women also have options: abortion, adoption or motherhood.<\/p>\n<p>When faced with that decision in 2006, author Christine Coppa chose motherhood.\u00a0She explores her road from the sexy life of a young editor in Manhattan to single motherhood in her new memoir,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Rattled-Memoir-Christine-Coppa\/dp\/0767930827\/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1238759538&amp;sr=8-1&amp;asc_source=web&amp;asc_campaign=web&amp;asc_refurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.sheknows.com%2Fparenting%2Farticles%2F808428%2Fsingle-pregnant-and-alone-one-mom-s-story%2F\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" data-ml-dynamic=\"true\" data-ml-dynamic-type=\"sl\" data-orig-url=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Rattled-Memoir-Christine-Coppa\/dp\/0767930827\/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1238759538&amp;sr=8-1&amp;asc_source=web&amp;asc_campaign=web&amp;asc_refurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.sheknows.com%2Fparenting%2Farticles%2F808428%2Fsingle-pregnant-and-alone-one-mom-s-story%2F\" data-ml-id=\"0\" data-ml=\"true\" data-xid=\"fr1709764199089jej\" data-skimlinks-tracking=\"xid:fr1709764199089jej\"><em>Rattled!<\/em><\/a><em>,<\/em>\u00a0due out from Broadway Books on April 14.<\/p>\n<p>Although she has shared much about her life on her popular mom blog\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.glamour.com\/sex-love-life\/blogs\/storked\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Storked! on Glamour\u2019s website<\/a>, the book takes readers from the uncertain and frightening moments peeing on the proverbial stick to watching her son\u2019s father slip out of her life to a dramatic move back to the New Jersey suburbs that she grew up in to finally bringing home her son and starting her new life.<\/p>\n<h2>Pregnant and alone<\/h2>\n<p data-skm-boomerang-el-2=\"processed\">Coppa had been in a steady relationship with her son\u2019s father when she found herself pregnant. But, as she recently told SheKnows, it quickly became clear that the relationship wasn\u2019t going to continue. \u201cI sort of saw it coming,\u201d she says. \u201cI didn\u2019t expect us to stay together, because it was clear that our relationship had gone into a different place. It was really fun \u2026 we weren\u2019t life partners, we weren\u2019t going to get married. We were just sort of dating. I expected what happened to happen.\u201dSo, Coppa was left in a situation that many women have faced: pregnant and alone. The fact is that single mothers are everywhere.<br \/>\nThere are 9.8 million single mothers living with their kids under age 18 in the United States, according to 2008 data from the U.S. Census Bureau. That is up from 3.4 million in 1970. It\u2019s become a far more accepted societal norm to have a child and remain single. Even with such strength in numbers, the decision to become a single mother is a hard one. It presents an array of challenges, concerns, feelings, worries, wonders and hopes \u2026 and, most of all, uncertainty.<\/p>\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-12-pmc-atlasmg-slider\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-12-pmc-atlasmg-slide-rail\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-12-pmc-atlasmg-scrubber\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-12-pmc-atlasmg-wrapper\">\n<div id=\"adl-report-ad-skm-boomerang-el-2-12\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Scared<\/h2>\n<p>What happens to a women when she is rattled to the core by sudden and certain life changes? She is scared, as Coppa says she was. \u201cI was always excited about him coming \u2026 [but] I had days like that where I didn\u2019t want to get out of bed. And it had nothing to do with Jack. I was just scared,\u201d she\u00a0<span class=\"skimlinks-unlinked\">said.Coppa\u2019s<\/span>\u00a0book gives readers a glimpse into what it was like for her to be 26 and pregnant. The account is at times raw, with Coppa describing in vivid detail the panic and uncertainty of a panic attack while on her babymoon in Palm Springs. At other times, she delves into the comforting powers of friendship and the ultimate desire and determination to be a successful mother with a baby. Met with challenge and resistance again and again, Coppa stands up in the face of opposition and figuratively shoves it aside as she makes room in her world and her life for her child.<\/p>\n<h2>Support system<\/h2>\n<p>For moms-to-be, and especially single moms-to-be, having a rock-solid support system in place is essential. Coppa had two: her friends in New York and New Jersey who rallied around her and her family, who (after digesting the news) made sure that she was on the road to success in her new\u00a0<span class=\"skimlinks-unlinked\">life.Her<\/span>\u00a0brothers, in particular, stepped in to fill the void left by\u00a0<em>A<\/em>, her son\u2019s father. \u201cThey\u2019ve been like mini-fathers,\u201d says Coppa.<\/p>\n<p data-skm-boomerang-el-2=\"processed\">Coppa\u2019s older brother, Carlo, helped her map out her finances and work on getting rid of unnecessary debt. As a single woman in Manhattan, Coppa lived pretty much paycheck to paycheck, saving little. But that changed when she was faced with the responsibility of motherhood. She says the mental change to being more money conscious wasn\u2019t too hard. \u201cIt wasn\u2019t as hard as people might think it might be. It was just a new way of thinking of things,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-18-pmc-atlasmg-slider\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-18-pmc-atlasmg-slide-rail\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-18-pmc-atlasmg-scrubber\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-18-pmc-atlasmg-wrapper\">\n<div id=\"skm-boomerang-el-2-18\" data-google-query-id=\"CKfC14HY4IQDFd8gVQgdYxYIpQ\">\n<div id=\"google_ads_iframe_\/8352\/sheknows\/parenting_8__container__\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h2>The father<\/h2>\n<p>In\u00a0<em>Rattled!,<\/em>\u00a0Coppa only refers to her son\u2019s father as\u00a0<em>A,<\/em>\u00a0the first letter of his first name, a choice she says she made out of good will. \u201cI am not out to get him. I have a feeling he\u2019s going to pick up my book. I know he reads my blog,\u201d Coppa\u00a0<span class=\"skimlinks-unlinked\">says.And<\/span>\u00a0she has spoken with him since their son was born, however\u00a0<em>A<\/em>\u00a0(very Scarlet Letter-ish, eh?) hasn\u2019t met his son. \u201cI have extended the olive branch and my son has never met his father. He is a grown up. He is a 30-year old college educated man. I reached out to him,\u201d Coppa says, adding that while she thinks it is important for her son to know his dad, she\u2019s done what she can to make that happen.<\/p>\n<h2>Poster mom?<\/h2>\n<p>Coppa, now 28, says that she loves being a mom but doesn\u2019t see her situation as special or unique. \u201cI am not a mom who decided to start a blog at blogspot for fun \u2026 This is what I do. I worked at a magazine before I got pregnant,\u201d Coppa says. \u201cI like to think of myself as a writer \u2013 this is one part of myself that I am writing about.\u201dNonetheless, Coppa\u2019s memoir lends a glimmer of hope to women who find themselves in an similar situation. Still pursuing her dreams of being a writer, she now does so from her New Jersey apartment with her son nearby. Coppa says that she plans to continue writing for\u00a0<em>Glamour,<\/em>\u00a0but isn\u2019t sure what her next big project will be. \u201cI am very optimistic and hopeful.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>However, she is the first to admit that while her situation has worked out so well, what worked for her wouldn\u2019t necessarily work for another woman. \u201cI can\u2019t tell [other women] what to do because every situation is different. I am making it work. Everyone is not able to make it work,\u201d Coppa says.<\/p>\n<p data-skm-boomerang-el-2=\"processed\">Her only advice? \u201cTake a deep breath and think about it because whether you have the child or have an abortion or give the child<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"font-size: 0px; height: 0px; line-height: 0px; margin: 0; padding: 0; clear: both;\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Faced with an unplanned pregnancy, a relationship ending and an uncertain future, Christine Coppa could have curled up in a ball on her parents\u2019 couch and given&#8230; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1935,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1572","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1572","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1572"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1572\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1575,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1572\/revisions\/1575"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1935"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1572"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1572"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1572"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}