{"id":1816,"date":"2024-03-11T22:51:22","date_gmt":"2024-03-11T22:51:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=1816"},"modified":"2024-03-11T22:51:22","modified_gmt":"2024-03-11T22:51:22","slug":"i-was-a-virgin-on-my-wedding-night-husband-wasnt-and-it-didnt-bother-me-until-we-had-been-married-for-9-years","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=1816","title":{"rendered":"I was a virgin on my wedding night, husband wasn\u2019t, and it didn\u2019t bother me until we had been married for 9 years"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1817\" src=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"658\" height=\"821\" srcset=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.png 658w, https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5-240x300.png 240w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 658px) 100vw, 658px\" \/><\/p><div class=\"311fe198f191a864c1efcdfa9efedfdf\" data-index=\"3\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1782571\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n<\/div>\n\n<p>I (32f) have only ever been with my husband (32m), but he had other partners before me. We have been married for a little over 9 years and have 3 kids. I just had our 3rd kid a month ago.<\/p>\n<p>It never bothered me until recently that I was a virgin and he had been with other women. I read a comment recently that men often think of previous partners while having sex with their wives and it got me thinking\u2026 because I don\u2019t know what that\u2019s like. He\u2019s my one and only.<\/p>\n<p>I haven\u2019t brought this up with him at all and likely never will because it\u2019s not his problem and not really fair to him. I knew that he wasn\u2019t a virgin when he took my virginity. I knew I wasn\u2019t his only time when we got married. I didn\u2019t care. I love him. But for some reason, now, right after I just had kid #3, it\u2019s bothering me. I wonder if he thinks of previous partners during or outside of our intimacy. I wonder what it would have been like to be with others. I wonder if it affects the way he sees me.<\/p>\n<p>He loved that I was a virgin when we were dating. He thought it was extremely attractive. Now, I kind of feel a little resentful that he was excited that I was a virgin but it was all cool for him to have multiple partners before me. I don\u2019t know why my mind is going there. It\u2019s not helpful to my marriage and it doesn\u2019t help me to be a better wife. He is a good man and he is good to me. We have a good sex life\u2026 at least, I think we do. What if he doesn\u2019t think so because he\u2019s had other experiences? He\u2019d never tell me, because he\u2019s a good guy. He does constantly tell me he\u2019s attracted to me and he initiates sex often, but I\u2019m suddenly feeling insecure, which is very out of character for me. One of his favorite things about me is my confidence. This insecurity feels foreign to me.<\/p>\n<p>I hope that this is just a weird phase I\u2019m going through in my 30\u2019s and I\u2019ll get over it soon.<\/p>\n<p>Edit to add: we are not having sex right now because I am recovering from childbirth, but we normally are intimate 2-3x a week.<\/p>\n<p>Edit #2: thank you so much to everyone who commented! I didn\u2019t expect to get so much advice and I appreciate every single one. I\u2019ve read every comment up until this point. Thank you for sitting with a stranger for just a few seconds and giving me your thoughts and experiences \u2014 the majority of you have been helpful.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"font-size: 0px; height: 0px; line-height: 0px; margin: 0; padding: 0; clear: both;\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I (32f) have only ever been with my husband (32m), but he had other partners before me. 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