{"id":18755,"date":"2025-02-17T10:13:28","date_gmt":"2025-02-17T10:13:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=18755"},"modified":"2025-02-17T10:13:28","modified_gmt":"2025-02-17T10:13:28","slug":"obsessed-with-my-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/?p=18755","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Obsessed with My Past&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-start=\"31\" data-end=\"231\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-18756\" src=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/juar8.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"800\" srcset=\"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/juar8.jpg 640w, https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/juar8-240x300.jpg 240w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p><div class=\"311fe198f191a864c1efcdfa9efedfdf\" data-index=\"3\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1782571\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n<\/div>\n\n<p>My husband can\u2019t stop obsessing over the men I dated before him. What started as occasional curiosity has turned into something much darker\u2014an endless cycle of comparison that I never signed up for.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"233\" data-end=\"566\">At first, I thought it was normal. A little jealousy is natural, right? But then came the questions. \u201cHow many guys have you been with? Were they better than me? Did you love them more?\u201d No matter how much I reassure him, it\u2019s never enough. He digs into my past like an archaeologist searching for proof that he doesn\u2019t measure up.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"568\" data-end=\"879\">It\u2019s like he wants to torture himself. Sometimes, I catch him bringing up old stories I barely remember, things I mentioned in passing. He lingers on details I never thought twice about, twisting them into something painful. It\u2019s as if he enjoys imagining me with other men\u2014except it only makes him miserable.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"881\" data-end=\"1154\">So, I have to ask: is this just insecurity, or is he low-key cucking himself in his own head? He\u2019s not being cheated on, but it\u2019s like he\u2019s mentally putting himself in that position\u2014fixating on the idea that he wasn\u2019t my first, as if that somehow makes him less of a man.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1156\" data-end=\"1265\" data-is-last-node=\"\">I love him, but I don\u2019t know how to fix this. How do you help someone who\u2019s fighting a battle against ghosts?<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"font-size: 0px; height: 0px; line-height: 0px; margin: 0; padding: 0; clear: both;\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My husband can\u2019t stop obsessing over the men I dated before him. What started as occasional curiosity has turned into something much darker\u2014an endless cycle of comparison&#8230; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18755","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18755","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=18755"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18755\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18757,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18755\/revisions\/18757"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=18755"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=18755"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/findpath.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=18755"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}