I’ve always been the type to attract attention. Maybe it’s my blonde hair, or the confidence I carry after years of modeling, but men have never been hard to come by. However, I’ve decided: I will never date another man under 45. And the reason might shock you.

For years, I found myself drawn to younger men. They were full of energy, spontaneity, and their carefree attitudes were a refreshing break from the seriousness that often comes with age. I liked the way they looked at life—full of possibilities, like nothing could hold them back. But over time, I realized something was missing. Beneath the charm and excitement, there was a lack of depth.

Younger men, in my experience, don’t have the life perspective I crave. They haven’t faced enough of life’s challenges yet. Sure, they’re fun and full of passion, but when it comes to understanding who I am—the layers of experience, wisdom, and complexity that come with being a woman in her 30s or beyond—they often fall short. They’re still figuring themselves out.

But it wasn’t just emotional maturity that was lacking. It was the ability to hold space for the kind of relationship I want. The men under 45 I’ve dated often seemed preoccupied with proving something, whether it was to themselves or to me. They wanted to impress, to compete, to show off their ambition or youth, but they rarely took the time to really understand me.

Then I met someone different—a man in his late 40s. He didn’t rush things or try to sweep me off my feet with grand gestures. Instead, he saw me. He didn’t feel the need to play games or hide behind his own insecurities. He wasn’t threatened by my independence or beauty; he embraced it. And that’s when I realized what I’d been missing all along: emotional depth and security.

Men over 45 have lived. They’ve experienced failure, success, heartbreak, and joy. They’ve built careers, lost love, and, most importantly, learned what truly matters. They don’t need constant validation. They understand that relationships aren’t about control or impressing each other, but about partnership, respect, and growth.

And so, I’ve made a decision. No more dating younger men who are still trying to find their way. I want someone who has lived through enough to know what they want and what they’re worth. I want a man who sees me as an equal, not a prize to be won or a conquest to be conquered.

It’s not about age for the sake of age—it’s about wisdom, confidence, and a shared understanding of what it means to live a full life. So, from now on, I’m only dating men over 45. Because I’ve learned that when you’ve truly lived, you love differently—more deeply, more honestly, and with greater purpose. And that’s the kind of love I’m ready for.