Growing up, I never really understood why my mom always pushed me to date older men. It felt outdated, like something from another era. But when I started dating this guy in his mid-30s, I finally understood why she gave me that advice.

One night, I came home frustrated after another argument with him. He was ambitious, yes, but he hadn’t quite figured out his life yet, and I was starting to feel the strain. As I vented to my mom, she sat down beside me and said something that stuck with me.

“Darling,” she began, “men under 50 are still finding themselves. They’re figuring out their careers, their finances, and their place in the world. It’s not that they’re bad, but life with them can be unstable. Older men, though, they’ve already built their lives. They’ve made their mistakes, learned from them, and have the means to give you the stability you deserve.”

At first, I brushed it off. But over time, as my relationship continued to crumble under the weight of uncertainty, I realized she was right. Older men don’t come with the same struggles. They’re more experienced, more established, and yes, more capable of providing a life that’s easier in so many ways.