At 35, I’ve lived a life that many people would envy. As a model, I’ve traveled the world, graced the covers of magazines, and walked in some of the most prestigious fashion shows. But behind the glamour, there’s a side of me that’s been searching for something real—something that all the flashing lights and compliments could never give me. And after years of dating, heartbreak, and countless lessons learned, I’ve made a decision: I’m done dating men under 45.

It sounds strange, doesn’t it? Most people assume that as a model, I’d want to date someone young, vibrant, and full of life. But my experiences have taught me otherwise. It wasn’t an easy choice, and the reasons behind it might surprise you.

In my 20s and early 30s, I dated men close to my age—ambitious, charming, and always full of promises. But there was something missing. These men were still figuring themselves out, chasing their careers, and often, they saw me as an accessory rather than a partner. I’ve had relationships where I felt like I was competing with their ambitions or their egos, where deep conversations were replaced by superficial compliments. I started to realize that what I needed wasn’t someone to impress me with grand gestures but someone who understood the value of stability and emotional maturity.

The turning point came when I met a man in his late 40s. He was confident in a way that younger men weren’t—not just in his career or social life, but in who he was as a person. He didn’t need to prove anything to me or to the world. He listened, really listened, and we had conversations that went beyond surface-level charm. With him, I felt valued for more than just my looks or the image I projected. And that’s when it hit me.

Men over 45 often come with life experience, and that’s exactly what I want now. They’ve lived, they’ve learned, and they know how to appreciate a woman without getting lost in their own insecurities. They aren’t playing games or constantly seeking validation. They’ve been through enough to know what matters, and they have a level of maturity that brings a sense of calm and security.

So yes, I’ve decided. I’m done dating men under 45, not because they aren’t good enough, but because I’ve outgrown the phase of my life where uncertainty and ego-driven relationships were the norm. I’m looking for depth, for wisdom, for someone who understands that true beauty is more than skin-deep. And at this stage in my life, I’ve learned that those qualities often come with age.

The decision might shock some, but for me, it’s the most empowering choice I’ve made. I’m ready for something real, and I won’t settle for less.