I can’t count how many times I’ve reassured him that he’s the only man that matters now. But no matter how many times I say it, my husband keeps bringing up my exes—comparing himself, asking questions I don’t want to answer. It feels like I’m trapped, constantly walking on eggshells, afraid that anything I say will lead to another round of jealousy. Why is he so obsessed with my past? I’m committed to him, but it’s starting to feel like no matter what I do, he’ll always see himself in competition with men who are long gone from my life.

Sometimes I wonder if his jealousy is more about his own insecurities than anything I’ve done. I’ve made a life with him, chosen him above all others, and yet it’s like he’s determined to sabotage his own happiness by dwelling on things that can’t be changed. It’s exhausting—trying to convince someone that they’re good enough when they’re constantly undermining themselves. I love him, but I’m also starting to feel a deep frustration because I know I can’t fix this for him. He has to find a way to let go, or we’ll never be able to move forward as a couple.