It’s hard to explain how strange it feels to be constantly compared to men from my past. My husband’s retroactive jealousy has become an ever-present issue in our marriage, something that I never expected to deal with. He’ll bring up old boyfriends, asking questions that make me uncomfortable, like he’s trying to find out if they were somehow better than him.

I tell him time and time again that those relationships are over, that they don’t matter anymore. But he doesn’t seem to believe me. He’s fighting shadows, comparing himself to men who aren’t even in my life anymore, and it’s wearing me down. No matter how much reassurance I give him, it’s never enough.

His jealousy has become a wedge between us, something that we can’t seem to get past. I love him, but I’m starting to wonder if love is enough when someone can’t let go of the past. I want to move forward, but it’s hard to do that when he’s stuck in a place that no longer exists.

I don’t know how much longer I can live like this. His jealousy is strangling our marriage, and I’m afraid that if we don’t find a way to fix it, it will tear us apart.