I’m Lila, 39 years old, and single because I refuse to change my relationship status unless someone genuinely adds value to my life. The years have taught me that relationships aren’t just about companionship or filling a void; they’re about growth, mutual respect, and enhancement of one another’s true selves. I’ve watched friends around me fall into patterns of dating for the sake of not being alone, sacrificing parts of themselves to keep someone else happy.

In my twenties, I thought love meant compromise and sacrifice. But as I’ve grown, I realize that while compromise is essential, it should never require me to lessen my authenticity. I’m done with temporary connections that make me question my worth. I want a partner who doesn’t see me as someone to “complete” them but someone who complements them and vice versa.

Until I meet someone who understands that loving me means cherishing the whole, true Lila, I’m content staying single. A great relationship should add joy, laughter, and growth, not drain me. So here I am, unapologetically myself, waiting for someone who will walk alongside me, rather than define my path.