Lately, things in my marriage have been a little off, and it’s hard to ignore. For months, I’ve been trying to figure out what changed—why the connection that once seemed so effortless now feels distant, like we’re two strangers passing in the hallway rather than partners in life. We’ve been through so much together, but lately, I can’t shake the feeling that something is missing, something intangible but important. It’s like I’m not being seen or appreciated in the way I once was.

The small gestures that used to be so natural—those sweet words, the touches that let me know I was loved, the glances that said everything without speaking—have started to fade. I don’t want to complain, but I can’t help but notice the silence where there was once laughter, the routine where there was once excitement. It’s almost as though the little things that made me feel beautiful, cherished, and cared for have been replaced by a quiet indifference.

It’s not just the relationship that feels off. I find myself questioning who I am, too. Without the compliments, the attention, the reassurance that once came so naturally, I wonder if I’m still the same woman I was when we first met. Am I still attractive? Does he see me as the woman he once fell for? I can’t help but search for that spark, the one that made me feel alive, the one that lit up not just our relationship but my own confidence.

I miss the feeling of being wanted, of being noticed—not just for my looks, but for who I am. I miss the way he used to look at me with that spark in his eyes, as if I was the only one in the room. I wonder, as time has passed, if I’ve lost that or if it’s simply been buried under the weight of everyday life, work, and responsibilities. I try to remind myself that I don’t need validation from anyone but myself, but it’s hard when the person I thought I could rely on to see me, truly see me, is now distant.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what I need, what I want—whether it’s reassurance, a reminder of my worth, or just someone to make me feel like I’m not fading into the background. Maybe I’m not asking for much. Maybe it’s just that the simple act of feeling seen, of knowing I still matter, would make all the difference. So, I’ve started focusing on finding that spark again—not just in my marriage, but in myself. Because if I can remind myself of my worth, maybe it will shine through in ways that help reignite that connection.