My name is Karen, I’m 47, and yes—I’m single. I’ve had plenty of opportunities to change my relationship status, but I’m in no rush. I refuse to settle for anything less than someone truly worthy of my time and heart. Over the years, I’ve come to see relationships as something that should elevate who I am, not take away from my essence. I’m not interested in filling a void or simply having someone to pass the time with. I believe that a great relationship should add to my life, expanding my joy, enriching my experiences, and complementing who I already am.

I’ve met people who saw my independence and strength as a challenge, something to either tame or mold into what they wanted. But I know who I am and what I bring to the table. I’ve built a life I love, with a career that fulfills me, friendships that lift me up, and passions that keep me grounded. I’d rather wait for someone who values all of that, who doesn’t feel threatened by it but is inspired by it.

I get questions all the time: “Why are you still single? Don’t you get lonely?” It used to bother me, but now I know it’s just a reflection of society’s rush to fit everyone into a box. For me, being single isn’t a state of lack. It’s a choice rooted in self-worth and knowing what I deserve. When I do meet someone who sees me for who I am—who values, respects, and adds to my life—I’ll be open. Until then, I’m happily single, knowing that being true to myself is far better than settling for less.