Hi! I’m married, but I’ve been feeling a bit off lately. Over the past couple of months, things with my husband have started to falter. The spark that once ignited our relationship seems to have dimmed, and I can’t help but feel like I’m just not getting the appreciation I used to.

I used to feel special, desired, cherished—but now? Now, I feel more like a roommate than a partner. He’s always busy, distracted by work or his own interests, and I’m left wondering where the excitement, the affection, and the attention went. I try to keep myself looking good, put on a little extra effort to stay attractive for him, but the effort feels unnoticed. I crave that feeling of being wanted—of knowing that I’m still “hot,” that I haven’t lost my spark.

Sometimes, I find myself scrolling through social media, looking at women who seem to have it all—confidence, attention, admiration. I can’t help but feel a little pang of envy. Where is my attention? Where is the admiration for everything I do—how hard I work to keep the household running, to look good, to be a great partner? I need someone to remind me that I’m still worth something, that I’m not just an afterthought.

I guess I’m looking for reassurance. I’m yearning to feel seen, to feel like the woman I am still has something special to offer. I wonder if it’s too much to ask for someone, even my husband, to show me that I’m still desirable. Maybe I’ve been taken for granted, or maybe the routine has dulled our connection.

But deep down, I want to know that I’m still beautiful—not just on the outside, but as a person. I want someone to see me again, appreciate me, make me feel like I’m still worthy of love, of affection, and of admiration. The truth is, it’s hard to feel like you’re at your best when no one seems to notice, and I’m left questioning—am I still that woman?