Hi! Things have been rocky in my marriage lately, and I’m struggling to remember what it feels like to be truly valued. There was a time when my husband would compliment me for the smallest things—a new dress, a different hairstyle, or even just the way I laughed at his jokes. Now, those compliments have faded away, replaced by silence or quick glances that seem distracted. It’s been months since I felt like his eyes were drawn to me, and I can’t help but wonder if I’ve lost that magic spark I once had.

I want to know if I still have what it takes to turn heads, to make someone pause and truly see me. I’ve spent so long being a wife and a partner, blending into the everyday routines that marriage brings, that I’ve forgotten what it feels like to be me. The me who felt confident, flirty, and full of life—the me who could light up a room just by walking in. I miss that version of myself, the one who was unafraid to catch someone’s eye and hold it.

Right now, I feel like I’m invisible, like I’ve lost the ability to stand out. I need to feel attractive again, to be reminded that I’m still the vibrant, desirable woman I’ve always been, even if my marriage has lost some of its spark. I’m craving that affirmation from someone—anyone—that I can still draw attention, still make someone’s heart skip a beat.

This isn’t about validation from outside, not really. It’s about reconnecting with that side of me that feels alive, confident, and comfortable in my own skin. I want to be seen, not just for the wife and partner I am, but for the woman I still am underneath it all. If someone can help me see that, to reignite that part of myself that I fear is slipping away, then maybe I’ll be able to carry that light back into my marriage and remind myself of the value I’ve always had, with or without the approval of someone else.