Hi! Lately, my marriage hasn’t felt as fulfilling as it once did, and it’s been hard not to take that personally. We’ve been together for years, through highs and lows, but recently it feels like we’re living parallel lives rather than sharing one. There’s a distance between us, and it’s left me questioning my own worth in ways I never expected.

It’s not that I don’t love him—I do, deeply. And I know he loves me in his own way. But somewhere along the way, the excitement, the affection, and even the simplest expressions of appreciation have faded. I used to feel like I could light up his world, like he couldn’t take his eyes off me. Now, I feel invisible more often than not.

I find myself overanalyzing everything, from how I dress to how I speak, wondering if I’m still attractive, still captivating. Am I not enough? Or have we just lost sight of each other in the chaos of life? I miss feeling desirable, like I’m not just someone’s partner but someone’s muse, someone who inspires joy and passion.

I know confidence should come from within, but it’s hard to feel it when the person who matters most doesn’t seem to notice anymore. It’s like I’m searching for a spark in a dark room, hoping for a flicker to remind me it’s still there.

I’m not looking for grand declarations or sweeping changes—just a moment, a gesture, a word that says, “I see you. I still choose you.” Until then, I’m trying to rediscover the parts of me that have gone quiet. Maybe confidence starts with remembering my own light. But it would mean the world to have someone reflect it back to me, even just for a moment.