Hi! My marriage has been going through a rough patch lately, and I feel like I’m not being appreciated anymore. It’s tough to admit, but the connection we once shared seems to have dimmed. The little gestures that used to make me feel cherished are now absent, and I’m starting to feel invisible in my own home.

I remember when we couldn’t wait to spend time together, how his compliments would light up my day. Now, those words seem like a distant memory, replaced by silence or routine conversations. I’ve tried to talk about it, but it feels like we’re speaking different languages. He doesn’t seem to notice the effort I put into looking good or the energy I invest in keeping our lives running smoothly.

Lately, I’ve found myself wondering if I’ve lost my spark. Am I still attractive? Still captivating? It’s not just about how I look but whether I can still make someone feel drawn to me, to my personality, my energy. I long to feel that sense of validation again—the kind that says, “You’re amazing just as you are.”

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and our life together. But I’m human, and I need to feel seen, valued, and wanted. Maybe this is just a phase, a dip in the rollercoaster of a long-term relationship. But I can’t shake this yearning to rediscover myself, to feel confident and alive again.

So, here I am, reaching out—not for pity, but for perspective. Am I still the person I used to be? Do I still have that spark? I’m ready to find out, to remind myself that I am worth appreciating, even if I have to start with my own reflection.