Hey! I’ve been married for a while now, but lately, something feels off, like we’re out of sync. The connection we once had, the laughter, the stolen glances, the small gestures that used to make me feel loved—they’re all fading. It’s not that we don’t care about each other; it’s more like we’ve fallen into the trap of routine. We coexist, but the spark that used to ignite so effortlessly seems to have dimmed.

What’s hardest is the lack of appreciation. I try—oh, I try. I put effort into looking good, keeping the house warm and inviting, being supportive, and staying engaged. But it feels like my efforts go unnoticed, as though I’m just part of the background of his life now. I miss the way he used to look at me, like I was the only one in the room. I miss being someone’s priority, their muse, their everything.

It’s starting to affect me more than I care to admit. I catch myself wondering if I’ve changed too much, if I’ve lost what once made me captivating. Am I still attractive? Am I still worth admiring, pursuing, or loving?

I don’t want to give up on my marriage—I truly don’t—but I can’t ignore this nagging need to feel seen, desired, and special again. I just want to know if I still have that spark, that magic, that fire within me. Deep down, I think it’s still there, but it’s buried under the weight of years and unspoken words.

Sometimes, I just wish someone could remind me. Not in a grand gesture or a fleeting compliment, but in a way that makes me believe it—makes me feel it. Maybe then I’d find the courage to rekindle that spark in my marriage too.