Feeling Overlooked

Hi! My marriage has hit a rough patch recently, and it’s left me feeling… well, a little invisible. It’s not something I ever expected to say. In the beginning, our relationship was filled with excitement and energy. We couldn’t get enough of each other. He would notice every little detail—how I styled my hair, the way I laughed, even the way I walked into a room. I felt seen, adored, and valued. But now, those moments are few and far between.

It’s hard not to wonder if something has changed—not just between us, but within me. Have I lost some of what made me unique, what made me me? Life has a way of taking its toll. Between the responsibilities, the schedules, and the comfort of routine, it feels like we’ve forgotten how to truly see each other. I can’t help but miss the days when I felt captivating, like I had this undeniable spark that couldn’t be ignored.

Lately, I’ve been catching myself looking in the mirror a little longer, searching for signs of that spark I used to see in myself. It’s still there, I think, but it’s hidden beneath layers of self-doubt and fatigue. I want to feel like I matter—not just as a partner or a provider, but as a person who still has beauty, charm, and allure.

I know the answers don’t lie in someone else’s validation, but sometimes, it would be nice to feel noticed. A kind word, a lingering glance, something to remind me that I still have that magic inside me.

What I want most is to feel alive again, to rediscover that part of me that used to light up a room. And maybe, just maybe, to inspire him to see it too.