Is it unusual for a husband to feel insecure about his wife’s past relationships? I’ve found myself asking this question more times than I can count. My husband and I have built a good life together, but his fixation on my past relationships is something I never anticipated.

At first, it seemed harmless—he’d ask the occasional question about who I dated or what those relationships were like. I answered honestly, not thinking much of it. After all, everyone has a past, and I thought he was just curious. But over time, his interest turned into something deeper, more troubling. He began comparing himself to men I used to date, often assuming they were somehow better than him.

He would say things like, “I’m sure you laughed more with him,” or “He must’ve been so much more confident than me.” Sometimes, even small moments would trigger his insecurities—he’d see an old photo of me smiling and ask, “Was that taken when you were with him? Were you happier then?” No matter how much I reassured him, his questions never seemed to stop.

It breaks my heart because I see the toll it’s taking on both of us. I love my husband deeply, and I’ve tried to remind him that he’s the person I chose to marry. My past relationships are just that—past. But his doubts have created a wedge between us that feels impossible to ignore.

I can’t help but wonder: is this level of insecurity normal? Or is it something we need outside help to overcome? I’m torn between supporting him and protecting my own peace. I just wish he could see himself the way I see him—strong, loving, and absolutely irreplaceable.