I’ve gotten DMs because the weak men can’t make a comment here to be misogynistic. I am a nurse who is going to go back to school to be an NP and I have 2 rental properties. I am looking at getting a house when this divorce is over. Let it be clear I NEVER needed him. So to say I need to stay with my husband because “all men cheat” or “he’s my best bet” or “no one will date a single mom” I will make more than him. If anything HE needed ME.

I 26F and my husband 28M have been married for 3 years. We have a 6 month old. About a month ago I found out that he cheated on me while I was three months pregnant with a woman from work and then again with the same woman when I was eight months pregnant and then cheated on me 3 weeks after I gave birth. I got a message on Instagram from her and she spilled everything. She had screenshots and voice recordings from him, but I didn’t only take her word for it. I also went to my husband and sat down with him, and he admitted to the whole thing.

When we first started dating, I told him that cheating was an ultimate deal breaker me and I would leave as soon as I found out someone cheated on me, so that’s what I did. I packed a bag and I went to go stay with my parents. He and his mom have been calling me and saying that he wants to talk and work on things and don’t throw away three years over a mistake. I told both of them that it was not a mistake. It was a choice that he made three times and those are the times that I know about. He cheated on me when I was carrying his child and then would come home and kiss me, and we would also be intimate, I told them to leave me alone, and that we would only be speaking through a lawyer to get this divorce over with.

They keep telling me to try therapy and that this is just a hurdle that most couples go over. Been coming to my parents house trying to talk to me. My mom finally told them both to stop calling me or she will call the police for harassment.

I know a lot of people work marriages after they find out after they cheated, but I know that I personally would never get over this. It would always be in the back of my head that not only did he cheat on me, but he did it while I was in a very vulnerable state and one of those times a month before I gave birth to his son. I would feel nothing but insecure being with him. Therapy would not work to fix us, but I am getting therapy for myself, so I can work through this. I just don’t think it would be fair to myself or fair to our son to stay in a marriage where I don’t trust his father to go to work or walk out the door. I don’t want any resentment that our son would feel when he gets older. I can’t believe he put our son in danger even if he didn’t care 1 ounce about me, our son could’ve been harmed by his actions.

My husband says that a broken home is not good for a child but like I said before not being able to trust the person, I’m with would be even worse and I feel like I would be teaching my son to just grit his teeth and go forward with things that make him uncomfortable… so we will be coparenting.

I have gotten tested and I don’t have anything thankfully in our son is healthy and happy. I will be getting tested in three months and then again in six months just to be safe. I just wanted to come here and vent because my parents are very supportive but it’s just a very hard thing to talk about now and talking to strangers is better I guess. I don’t wanna feel like I failed at something… I don’t know if that makes sense just talking really. I’m really heartbroken over this and I just need to talk about my feelings. My first therapy session is tomorrow.

I have seen my soon to be ex-husband post. It is nothing he can say or do to try and get me back to blame me because I was bedridden. I have been reading the comments and they have made me feel better and giggle and I’m surprised that I can laugh in this time that I’m hurt. My favorite was “I have the worlds smallest violin and it won’t even play a tune, that’s how sad this is” it went something like that and my mom said whatever made me laugh to thank them, so thank you from me and my mom and my son. When I started laughing, he smiled and tried to mock me… as much as I’ve tried to shield him from my pain I know that he’s probably felt some of it so thank you to that person .

I am slowly, but surely healing from this and I want to thank all of you for your kind words and saying that you’re proud of me I have actually cried for the people I’ve been saying that they’re proud of me for being strong in this time. My first therapy session went great. I had a breakthrough and let myself cry. I know I need to let myself grieve.

I know I said that I felt like I failed in my post yesterday but all of you had made me see that I did not betray his trust. He betrayed mine, so thank you all.