I’m Karen, 47 years old, and I’ve been single for the last five years. Some people don’t understand it. They question why I’m not “looking” for someone, why I haven’t “settled down” yet. But the truth is, I refuse to change my relationship status until someone is truly worthy. It’s not about being picky or refusing to compromise—it’s about understanding the value of a relationship and knowing what I deserve.

I’ve had relationships in the past, some meaningful, some less so, and what I’ve come to realize is this: a great relationship should add to who you are, not take away from it. It should uplift, inspire, and complement your life. It shouldn’t be a distraction or a source of anxiety or conflict.

For years, I thought love was something I needed to find, like a missing piece to make me whole. But now, I’ve learned that I am whole on my own. I’ve built a life I’m proud of—a career I’m passionate about, friends who support me, and a sense of independence I cherish. I’ve worked hard for the balance I’ve found, and I’m not willing to let anyone come in and disrupt that peace just for the sake of being in a relationship.

I believe love, when it’s real, should make life better, not harder. It should feel like a partnership, a team—two individuals coming together to share their best selves, not trying to fill gaps or patch wounds. And until I meet someone who understands that, who offers a love that enhances my life instead of complicating it, I’ll stay single. Because I know that waiting for something real is worth it.