Being married but feeling unloved is one of the most heartbreaking experiences I’ve ever endured. Marriage is supposed to be a bond of love and partnership, a safe space where you feel valued and cared for. But lately, I feel like I’m falling short—like I’m not good enough for my husband, and no matter what I do, I can’t seem to change that.

It’s not that he’s cruel or intentionally hurtful. In fact, it’s the absence of anything—attention, affection, acknowledgment—that cuts the deepest. His silence feels heavier than words, his indifference louder than any argument. I find myself going over every detail, every action, trying to figure out what I’ve done wrong. Did I change too much over the years? Have I become less appealing to him? Or worse, has he simply stopped caring?

I try harder to please him, to spark his interest, but nothing seems to work. I put effort into my appearance, cook his favorite meals, and try to engage him in conversations, but his responses are lukewarm at best. Each time I’m met with indifference, it feels like a rejection, and my confidence takes another blow.

What hurts the most is that I still love him deeply, but I don’t feel that love reflected back. I don’t know how to fix this, and I’m scared to confront him, afraid of the answers I might hear. I just want to feel seen, appreciated, and loved again—but right now, I feel invisible in my own marriage.