I never imagined I’d hear something like this from my husband. When he proposed that I work in the adult film industry, I was completely taken aback. He said I’m suited for it—claimed I have the right looks and that it could be a way for us to make more money. But what truly shook me was his complete lack of jealousy about me being intimate with other men on screen. He believes that, far from causing issues, it could actually improve our marriage. He insists it would bring us closer, making us more open with each other.

I’m in shock. I don’t know how to process this or what to make of it. This is so far outside anything I’ve ever considered for myself, and it feels completely foreign to the relationship we’ve built. We’ve always had a good marriage, or so I thought. We’ve had our struggles like any couple, but I never imagined something like this would be part of the conversation.

His proposal makes me question his understanding of intimacy and trust. I’m deeply unsettled by his detachment from the idea of me being with other men, especially in such an intimate way. Doesn’t he care about how I might feel? I don’t know if this is something he truly believes could benefit us, or if he’s simply detached from the emotional weight of the situation.

I love him, but right now, I don’t even know where to start in responding. I’m confused, hurt, and overwhelmed by how to navigate this. It’s not just about what he wants—it’s about what I want, what feels right, and what will preserve my own sense of dignity and self-worth.