My husband had the nerve to cheat on me, and now he’s acting like it’s my fault! I can’t believe he’s trying to shift the blame instead of admitting what he did. It’s infuriating and makes me wonder if he even values our marriage at all. The moment I found out, I felt like my entire world had been turned upside down. I was angry, hurt, and completely blindsided. How could he do this to me? To us?

When I confronted him, I expected him to own up to his mistake, to apologize, to show even a shred of remorse. Instead, he turned it around on me. He said I’ve been too focused on work, too tired to spend time with him, too preoccupied with everything but him. He said I didn’t make him feel appreciated or desired, as if that somehow excuses his betrayal. As if his infidelity is somehow my responsibility.

The audacity of it all leaves me speechless. How can he stand there and blame me for his choices? How can he look me in the eye and act like he’s the victim in all of this? It’s not just the cheating that hurts—it’s the way he’s twisting the truth to avoid taking accountability. It’s manipulative, selfish, and downright cruel.

I’ve spent nights lying awake, replaying every argument, every moment of distance, wondering if I missed the signs or if I could have done something differently. But no matter how much I turn it over in my mind, I know the truth: he made the choice to cheat. Not me. And no amount of blame-shifting can change that.

What’s even more infuriating is the way he’s acting like nothing’s wrong. He’s going about his days as if he didn’t just destroy the foundation of our marriage, as if I’m supposed to just get over it and move on. But how can I move on when he won’t even acknowledge what he’s done? How can I trust him again when he’s more focused on defending himself than repairing the damage he’s caused?

I don’t know what the future holds for us. Part of me wants to walk away, to leave him and start over on my own terms. But another part wonders if there’s anything left to salvage. Can a marriage survive without honesty and accountability? Can I ever look at him the same way again?

For now, I’m taking things one day at a time, trying to process my anger and figure out what I want. One thing I know for sure is that I didn’t deserve this. No one does. And no amount of excuses or blame-shifting can change the fact that he’s the one who broke our vows, not me.