Sorry if this is too long I’ve had the craziest 24 hours.

My (51) husband (55M) went to visit a school friend in Asia. I was completely fine with it and even encouraged it because he was having a hard time at work and could use the breather. We’ve been married for 4 months and together around 4 years.

Our wedding was really quick mostly because my husband is working in the states and I had to marry him to come live with him. We didnt decided to get married just so we can live with each other there was more behind the devotion. And we do have a migration case open for me.

He said a few times this was going to be his bachelors party. I was fine with this because I never expected him to do something this stupid.

Communication was great for a few days, he would make this video blogs about everything they were doing together and called me as soon as he woke up and as soon as he went to sleep. Suddenly it stoped I would get a text at 2/3 am saying he was so sorry but they lost track of time catching up or calling but talking less than 6 minutes.

The first red flag was when I opened Google maps on our shared iPad and saw a couple of “happy massage” places. I didn’t think any of it, I was almost sure they were having a conversation, the subject came up and they Google it. Any way, when he called I jokingly asked what he was up to. But instead of laughing the conversation was just uncomfortable. He went off on me saying how controlled he feels and annoyed that I assumed the worst. This made me feel weird cause I was clearly laughing about it. I ended the conversation so it didn’t escalate. Next day goes by and he didn’t say anything before going to bed (in his time zone, it’s a 12h diference). Around 12 pm I got this gut feeling, I was so anxious and couldn’t control it. I went on with my day, trying to ignore it but the anxiety was there and very strong. I noticed he was constantly online on Whatsapp so I knew he was out parting. But I couldn’t stop feeling worried. On my way back home on the train it occurred to me that maybe something wrong happened with him and because he was angry he didn’t tell me. So I got home around 6pm, opened the computer and opened the Whatsapp app to make sure everything was ok.

As soon as I opened I noticed a chat with a girl. He was hiring her and asking her to come to the house and bring a friend. They discussed the price and a few comments about what they were going to do. I went on the conversation with his friend and they did talk about it. My husband’s friend asked him “you did her” and he said “yes please come what a trip”. More stuff about how and who was going to pay them.

I was so disgusted I was so heartbroken and honestly I stared at the screen for around 20 minutes just making sure I wasn’t crazy. It seemed so unreal. I went on a rabit hole to try to find all the information possible to find some type of explanation of what happened and make sure I wasn’t misunderstanding. I open the Google activities and found all the thing he translated to try to talk with this girls. So basically I read everything they said during the act.

I called his mom and send her everything. She was the first person to come to my mind because we are very close and she always takes care of me.

He texted me the next morning as usual saying how much he loves me and missed me. I couldn’t hold it I told him I knew and hoped it was worth tossing our marriage to the trash for a few minutes of fun. He told me he was on bachelors mindset and that he hated that I checked his stuff.

I can’t care less. I feel so grossed out, I feel like I just need to get out of here but I’m trapped because of my paperwork situation.

I just feel everything is not real.