I never imagined I’d be in this position—heartbroken, betrayed, and somehow being blamed for it. When I discovered my husband had been unfaithful, I felt like my entire world collapsed. The man I trusted, the person I built a life with, had shattered everything. I expected guilt, remorse, or even an apology. But instead, he turned it around on me.

According to him, his affair wasn’t just a mistake—it was my fault. He said I was too distant, too busy, too focused on other things. He claimed I didn’t give him enough attention, that I made him feel unwanted. As if his betrayal was the natural consequence of my supposed shortcomings. I was stunned. I had been working hard, taking care of our home, making sure everything in our life was stable. And now, instead of accountability, I was being handed the weight of his choices.

At first, I questioned myself. Had I neglected him? Had I pushed him away without realizing it? But the more I thought about it, the angrier I became. Marriage isn’t perfect, but cheating is a choice—a selfish, deliberate decision. If he felt unhappy, why didn’t he talk to me? Why didn’t he try to fix things instead of seeking comfort elsewhere?

Now, I’m left wondering what comes next. How do I move forward from a betrayal like this? Can I ever forgive him? And more importantly, should I even try?