My husband’s lack of attention makes me feel unimportant and unwanted. I’m struggling to figure out what to do about it.

It wasn’t always like this. There was a time when his eyes would light up when I walked into the room, when he would reach for my hand just because he wanted to feel me close. But now, those moments feel like a distant memory. These days, he barely notices me. I could sit beside him for hours, and he wouldn’t even glance in my direction. Our conversations have turned into empty exchanges—short, obligatory words that barely scratch the surface of what we once had.

I’ve tried everything. I’ve dressed up, planned special evenings, initiated deep conversations—but nothing seems to get through to him. He’s either lost in his phone, distracted by work, or simply indifferent. When I bring it up, he brushes it off, telling me I’m overthinking, that he’s just tired. But how can I not notice the growing space between us? How can I not feel the aching loneliness of being right next to someone and still feeling miles apart?

I don’t want to beg for his attention, but I don’t want to lose the man I love either. I just want to feel cherished again, to feel like I matter to him. But if he no longer sees me, if he no longer cares, then I have to ask myself—what am I holding onto? And is it worth the pain of feeling this invisible?