I made a terrible mistake—one that lasted for two years. I had an affair with my husband’s friend, a secret I carried with me every day, convincing myself that it would never come to light. I told myself it was a temporary escape, that it didn’t change how I felt about my husband. But now, the truth is out, and the pain I’ve caused is undeniable.

When my husband discovered the affair, I saw something break inside him. The man who once looked at me with love and trust now struggles to meet my gaze. His silence is heavy, his words—when he speaks—are filled with hurt and confusion. I can see the questions in his eyes: Was any of it real? Did I ever truly love him? How could I betray him like this, and with someone he considered a friend?

I know I can’t erase what I’ve done. No apology, no explanation will undo the betrayal. But I want to help him heal—I want us to find a way back to each other. I’m willing to face the pain and discomfort if it means rebuilding the relationship we once had.

But how do I even begin? How can I show him that my regret is genuine? Do I give him the space he needs, or do I stay close and prove my commitment daily? I fear that the damage I’ve caused may be beyond repair, but I can’t give up on us.

What are the best ways to help him heal, earn his forgiveness, and slowly rebuild the trust I shattered?