I’m Lisa, 45 years old, and still single. Is real love still out there, or is it just a fantasy now?

As I reflect on my years of being single, I can’t help but wonder whether true love is a possibility in today’s world. It feels as though everything around me is moving so quickly—people meet, date, and fall in love at lightning speed, yet true, lasting connections seem harder and harder to find. Sometimes, I catch myself questioning if genuine love is something reserved for the young or the lucky, or if it’s even still out there for someone like me.

I’ve had relationships in the past—some that felt promising, others that were fleeting, and some that taught me lessons I didn’t expect to learn. But now, as I’ve grown older and embraced the independence that comes with being on my own, I find myself feeling torn between wanting the companionship that comes with love and the comfort of the life I’ve carefully built for myself. I’ve cultivated friendships, career accomplishments, and hobbies that bring me fulfillment. My life is rich in experiences, and I don’t regret the path I’ve taken. Yet, there’s an undeniable longing deep within me for that one connection—a love that goes beyond the surface, one that touches the heart and soul.

I’ve heard people say that the best love comes when you least expect it, and I often wonder if that’s true. In this fast-paced, digital world, finding someone who truly understands you seems like a rare gem. But perhaps, just perhaps, there’s still a chance for me to find it. I believe in love, even if it takes its time. Until then, I’ll keep my heart open, trusting that the right connection will come when the time is right.