I never imagined I’d be in this position. Marriage is built on love, trust, and commitment—or at least, that’s what I thought. But now, everything feels like a lie. I just found out that my husband was unfaithful, and as if that betrayal wasn’t painful enough, he refuses to take responsibility. Instead, he’s making it seem like it’s all my fault.

When I confronted him, I expected remorse, maybe even an apology. But what I got was deflection and blame. He told me I’ve been too distant, too focused on other things, not affectionate enough, not the same woman he married. It’s like he had a list of justifications ready, as if any of them could excuse what he did. At first, I was too shocked to respond. I started questioning myself—had I really changed? Had I been neglecting him? Could I have done something differently? But then reality hit me. No matter what issues we had, cheating was a choice—his choice.

Now, I’m left feeling heartbroken, angry, and utterly lost. How do I even begin to deal with this? Do I try to fix a marriage with someone who refuses to take responsibility? Or do I walk away from a man who chose to betray me and then blame me for it? Part of me wants to fight for what we had, but another part of me wonders—if he doesn’t own up to this, how can I ever trust him again?